Am I expecting too much from my perfectly good mattress?
| Sometimes I'm not sure if my aches and pains, and particularly lower back issues aren't related to other factors. I'm always ready to blame my mattress, it seems. The reason I say this is because my back is terribly fickle these days. One day my mattress (latex and coils) will feel just great the way it is. Then the next day my lower back hurts. I tweak the layers a bit or add a softer topper. But no matter what I do, it never seems to feel perfect. I'm talking about my back and sometimes other body parts. I'm beginning to think if I made a point of 1.) Exercising and stretching more 2.) Losing about 20 lbs. 3.) Going to bed earlier....my back might feel better all the way around. Then, hopefully, I can stop trying to configure my mattress to "cure" the aches and pains. Maybe I shouldn't give it so much responsibility! I'm realizing that we need some teamwork here for this 'perfect match' to work the way it should. <BR><BR>Off to the gym....I guess....:-) |
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I am finding out that some nights, I need a firmer mattress and others nights I need a little cushion. Hence since I have a latex kit, I am going to put the 44 ILD higher up closer to me on one side and lower under the 36 ILD's on the other side of my bed. I love having two sides of my bed. But of course if I was married, I would only have one side. For you BeddyBye, maybe like you said, some exercise and weight loss would help but also maybe you can cut the topper in half so one side of the bed has a firmer topper than the other side of the bed? That reminds me I need to start exercising again since I have lot most of my muscles in my back that had prevented me from every needing a back brace due to my scoliosis. I still have muscles but I will after the pain from my car accident heals, do my best to strengthen my back again. I wish I had a rower like my old gym had since that really gave me strong back and stomach and arm muscles. |
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You definitely have the best of both worlds, Lynn! Since I, too, have the ability to unzip my mattress and change my layers around, I at least have that benefit. But, like you said, my husband occupies the other side of the bed. His is a smidgen firmer, but not by much. He sleeps on his stomach a lot, so he can't have it too soft. If I lived alone, I would do what you do with your layers. It would be like having two beds to suit your needs as needed. <BR><BR>I took out the memory foam layer I added under my firmer latex topper. It made it too soft. At least my back was complaining somewhat. Again, I'm not even sure anymore that I can attribute it to the mattress. I bought a new mattress pad to put over the latex, so I'll see how that feels tonight. I swear, I'm related to the Princess and the Pea!<BR><BR> Lynn2006 wrote: I am finding out that some nights, I need a firmer mattress and others nights I need a little cushion. Hence since I have a latex kit, I am going to put the 44 ILD higher up closer to me on one side and lower under the 36 ILD's on the other side of my bed. I love having two sides of my bed. But of course if I was married, I would only have one side.&nbsp; <BR><BR>For you BeddyBye, maybe like you said, some exercise and weight loss would help but also maybe you can cut the topper in half so one side of the bed has a firmer topper than the other side of the bed?<BR><BR>That reminds me I need to start exercising again since I have lot most of my muscles in my back that had prevented me from every needing a back brace due to my scoliosis. I still have muscles but I will after the pain from my car accident heals, do my best to strengthen my back again. I wish I had a rower like my old gym had since that really gave me strong back and stomach and arm muscles. |
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BeddyBye, I forgot you have a zipped up cover also. I guess our backs feel differently on different days and the muscles need different layers of support. One day, I will have someone in my life and not have both sides of my bed to myself. Right now it is good for my sleep but I know it is not forever since I really do not want to be alone forever. Good luck on making your bed's comfort level just right for your back as best as you can since our comfort level seems to fluctuate daily. |
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Well, if it's any consolation, now that we've been married for awhile, the more space, the better! I can't see how ANY couple sleeps on a mattress smaller than a King! I also have pillows surrounding me like a little "fort", so I might as well be sleeping alone! But, I know what you mean.<BR><BR>I thought the mattress felt perfectly fine last night, but there was still some of that nagging lower back pain. Not enough to cause me to stay awake all night. But, I could still feel it when I turned. Again, I'm hoping it's just because I need to strengthen and stretch my back muscles. I don't see how I can make my bed feel any nicer. <BR><BR> Lynn2006 wrote: BeddyBye,<BR><BR>I forgot you have a zipped up cover also. I guess our backs feel differently on different days and the muscles need different layers of support.<BR><BR>One day, I will have someone in my life and not have both sides of my bed to myself. Right now it is good for my sleep but I know it is not forever since I really do not want to be alone forever.<BR><BR>Good luck on making your bed's comfort level just right for your back as best as you can since our comfort level seems to fluctuate daily. |
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BeddyBye wrote: Sometimes I'm not sure if my aches and pains, and particularly lower back issues aren't related to other factors. I'm always ready to blame my mattress, it seems. The reason I say this is because my back is terribly fickle these days. One day my mattress (latex and coils) will feel just great the way it is. Then the next day my lower back hurts. I tweak the layers a bit or add a softer topper. But no matter what I do, it never seems to feel perfect. I'm talking about my back and sometimes other body parts. I'm beginning to think if I made a point of 1.) Exercising and stretching more 2.) Losing about 20 lbs.&amp;nbsp; 3.) Going to bed earlier....my back might feel better all the way around. Then, hopefully, I can stop trying to configure my mattress to &quot;cure&quot; the aches and pains. Maybe I shouldn't give it so much responsibility! I'm realizing that we need some teamwork here for this 'perfect match' to work the way it should. &lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;Off to the gym....I guess....:-) <BR><BR>BeddyBye,I know exactly what you are talking about-Some days I wake up and couldn't be happier with my mattress but other days I am thinking about sleeping elsewhere.I have two small children that love to wandering in sometime in the middle of the night and sleep with my Wife and I and that is when I typically wake up feeling anything but rested.I finish my sleep in one of the kids twin beds and wake up feeling fine.Now, this could be due to the fact that I have a the whole bed to myself (my guess) or it could be their beds are quite firm compared to mine.Just this past week I was on vacation and installed a paver walkway in my backyard.After 8 hours on my knees my back wasn't feeling all that great and woke up feeling a little sore.Was this due to mattress?Certainly not,but somehow I wanted my mattress to make everything normal again but that was not going to happen.But, that is the benefit of having mattresses such as ours-you can customize your mattress exactly as you see fit and are not locked in to what Sealy/Serta/Simmons/ect. had in mind.Just tonite I wanted to try my bed a little firmer so I switched my top medium layer for a firm layer.If I am not happy I'll switch it back to it's original set-up.That's what I like about a latex kit!Jeff |
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It really is hard to know what helps us have that perfect night of sleep. When I was working fulltime and on my feet all day, as well as mentally exhausted, it was a lot easier to fall into bed and quickly fall asleep. Of course, I was also younger and not menopausal. That right there can change the whole dynamics of a good night's sleep. Just like having small kids who want to share your bed.<BR><BR><BR><BR>Still, I can't help feeling I'm a bit obsessed about having even the slightest body impressions on my mattress. I'm not sure if that contributes to my lower back pain or not. It's not like I'm sleeping in a crater or anything! My mattress will be a year old next month. I honestly can't say that I've been 100% satisfied all these months. Or just when I think it's perfect and I'll never need to change the layers again...bam!...I wake up feeling sore. Or I toss and turn all night. I hate that feeling! Why can't it just feel good for ALWAYS?? Or is that the beauty of having a mattress with a zippered top that can be modified as necessary? If this was a big S mattress and my back was sore, I would be stuck with what I have, right?<BR><BR><BR><BR>Oh, well. My mattress guy had given me 4 small, thin sheets of foam that he layers to make a "lumbar pad". He had told me to try it either inside my zipped mattress under the quilted cover or directly under the mattress pad for more support in my lumbar region. I might have to do that. Also, I was just looking at the instructions that come with the mattress and it says to rotate it from end to end (not flip) to even out any body impressions. They said for a bed that isn't all latex, to do this every 3 months. With all latex, once a year. I haven't done it at all and it will be a year in October since we've had it. Oops. I hope I didn't damage it by not rotating it.<BR><BR><BR><BR> JCturboT wrote: &lt;BR&gt;&lt;BR&gt;BeddyBye,I know exactly what you are talking about-Some days I wake up and couldn't be happier with my mattress but other days I am thinking about sleeping elsewhere.I have two small children that love to wandering in sometime in the middle of the night and sleep with my Wife and I and that is when I typically wake up feeling anything but rested.I finish my sleep in one of the kids twin beds and wake up feeling fine.Now, this could be due to the fact that I have a the whole bed to myself (my guess) or it could be their beds are quite firm compared to mine.Just this past week I was on vacation and installed a paver walkway in my backyard.After 8 hours on my knees my back wasn't feeling all that great and woke up feeling a little sore.Was this due to mattress?Certainly not,but somehow I wanted my mattress to make everything normal again but that was not going to happen.But, that is the benefit of having mattresses such as ours-you can customize your mattress exactly as you see fit and are not locked in to what Sealy/Serta/Simmons/ect. had in mind.Just tonite I wanted to try my bed a little firmer so I switched my top medium layer for a firm layer.If I am not happy I'll switch it back to it's original set-up.That's what I like about a latex kit!Jeff |
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You probably are expecting too much. No mattress is going to cure degenerating, herniated or arthritic discs, although it would be nice if one could! Maybe you should see your doctor to determine if something else isn't going on there that could improve with therapy. If you do have some kind of lumbar spine issue the wrong kind of exercise could actually make it worse, so it's a good idea to check it out first. Unfortunately aches and pains are part of ageing. I had a compressed disc injury when I was a teenager and I've had a weak back ever since. Now that I'm older it just seems to hurt all of the time. Part of the problem is arthritis, so too much back strain or environmental issues like cold or damp just makes it worse. I've resigned myself to the fact that I often have to tweak my bed to sleep comfortably. Sometimes this means more padding, sometimes it means less. I always keep a flat feather travel pillow handy to slip under my waist if I feel the need for more lumbar support. Other times I use a 1/2" piece of HR foam that I can fold over and tuck under my waist. I like these two materials since they are firm to varying degrees and provide more support than my memory foam topper alone. Right now I have a 1" memory foam topper on my bed. But sometimes when I really feel achey all over I pull out my 2" memory foam topper. And sometimes I have a good day--or night rather, when I don't need to tweak anything at all--but they are becoming the exception rather than the rule. |
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Looks like this is what I'm going to have to do--custom configuring to suit my aches and pains. Arrrrghhh! I honestly don't think I have arthritis in my back at this point in my 56+ years. Only my fingers a bit. :) My dad did have surgery for severe spinal stenosis and congenital disk problems. He's full of osteoarthritis. So, I suppose it could happen to me! Yikes. My mom told me something the other day about taking care of myself NOW before I get old. She said she regrets not exercising more and building strength in her joints and muscles as a younger person. And, she only weighs around 115 and walks everyday. I should pay heed, right? In the meantime, I guess I'll continue to tweak my bed to fit however my body feels at the moment. Sigh.&amp;amp;lt;BR&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;BR&amp;amp;gt;&lt;BR&gt;<BR> cloud9 wrote: You probably are expecting too much. No mattress is going to cure degenerating, herniated or arthritic discs, although it would be nice if one could!&amp;amp;amp;amp;nbsp; Maybe you should see your doctor to determine if something else isn't going on there that could improve with therapy. If you do have some kind of lumbar spine issue the wrong kind of exercise could actually make it worse, so it's a good idea to check it out first.&amp;amp;amp;lt;BR&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;BR&amp;amp;amp;gt;Unfortunately aches and pains are part of ageing. I had a compressed disc injury when I was a teenager and I've had a weak back ever since. Now that I'm older it just seems to hurt all of the time. Part of the problem is arthritis, so&amp;amp;amp;amp;nbsp;too much back&amp;amp;amp;amp;nbsp;strain or environmental issues like&amp;amp;amp;amp;nbsp;cold or damp just makes it worse. &amp;amp;amp;lt;BR&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;BR&amp;amp;amp;gt;I've resigned myself to the fact that I often have to tweak my bed to sleep comfortably. Sometimes this means more padding, sometimes it means less. I always keep a flat feather travel pillow handy to&amp;amp;amp;amp;nbsp;slip under my waist if I feel the need for more lumbar support. Other times I use a&amp;amp;amp;amp;nbsp;1/2&amp;amp;quot; piece of HR foam that I can fold over and tuck under my waist. I like these two materials since they are firm to varying degrees and provide more support than my memory foam topper alone. Right now I have a 1&amp;amp;quot; memory foam topper on my bed. But sometimes when I really feel achey all over I pull out my 2&amp;amp;quot; memory foam topper. And sometimes I have a good day--or night rather, when I don't need to tweak anything at all--but they are becoming the exception rather than the rule. This message was modified Sep 16, 2007 by BeddyBye
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A little info about my setup-Bed:SleepEZ 13000 (4 layers) in 100% Natural Talalay latex.After two night on my firm top latex layer (38-40ILD) my body was craving something soft.So, I decided to go back to my original top comfort layer, a medium latex layer(30-32ILD) but, instead of the second layer of firm latex I put my X-tra firm layer (44ILD).I figure this would give me the comfort I want with the extra support my body is craving as of late.I'll post after a couple of days of this setup.Jeff This message was modified Sep 18, 2007 by JCturboT
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Looking forward to hearing how it goes! One of my fiber beds should be here tomorrow(The Ultimate Cuddle Bed Plus from Costco.) If I decide to keep it, I'll report back on how it works. Sigh...<BR><BR><BR> JCturboT wrote: A little info about my setup-Bed:SleepEZ 13000 (4 layers) in 100% Natural Talalay latex.After two night on my firm top latex layer (38-40ILD) my body was craving something soft.So, I decided to go back to my original top comfort layer, a medium latex layer(30-32ILD) but, instead of the second layer of firm latex I put my X-tra firm layer (44ILD).I figure this would give me the comfort I want with the extra support my body is craving as of late.I'll post after a couple of days of this setup.Jeff |