Mattress Forum

We have our mattresses about 6 inches or so apart so it's easy for us to hop over to visit each other when we feel like it.

Yes, I think the bridge will transfer some motion, but not as much as being on the same platform. It might be worth a try. You'll have to decide if you think it is, or not. We didn't try it because I just knew it would give too much transfer of motion.

And I don't think a person is necessarily "hopelessly neurotic person" to have a problem with this. (Of course, you have to consider the source of this statement. ;-D ) But there are many reasons why a person might not be able to sleep with one's mate in the same bed. I agree it's rare but I don't think we're the only ones. Although I am a light sleeper, I don't think even a "normal" sleeper could put up with my wife's constant turning, tossing, kicking, pullling covers, not wanting covers on her feet, etc. etc. So it takes 2 to tango, in some cases at least.

Again, getting back to your question, if you can stand your wife's sharing the same sheets and blankets, and it's just the motion of the mattress that bothers you, you could try latex only (no shared springs of course) on a very stable platform. By stable I think a platform of very strong wood such as oak or something, with more boards and less space in between the boards, would basically provide very little transfer of motion. My wife and I had our flobeds right on the floor if I recall correctly and we had no transfer of motion. It was the sheets, blankets and kicking and all that drove us to separate twin beds, not the latex mattress.

Hope this helps you decide.

thanks for the lengthy and thoughtful reply! 

Just to clarify: 

1) If i want NO motion, I'd have to get two platforms--one will always provide a little motion? I would love to make our current platform bed 'motionless', but i'm not sure how to do that, or if it's possible to replicate the non-motion of the floor.

2) You're saying that with two platforms and two mattresses, i could use one set of sheets? That would be nice, if it works.

Do I come across as of the male gender? I had to laugh when you mentioned 'your wife'--I actually am a woman, and the partner in question is my boyfriend. ;) 

Thanks for providing some welcome advice! 

Diane

That said, I'm trying to find an arrangement where i can satisfy my desire to sleep next to him, yet not be disturbed by him. I keep thinking i'll 'grow out of' this sensitivity to motion, but it's been two years now and not much has changed. ;)

Diane, sounds like your husband sleeps just like my wife! Her blankets and sheets in the morning are just everywhere, it looks like a tornado hit it! And yeah, I'm like you, mine is barely changed, all I have to do usually is just pull everything up in the morning to "make my bed". She never makes hers because she doesn't like to sleep with everything tucked in, etc. I can't even join her in her bed without some maneuvering because I usually want to be covered and there is never even one sheet or blanket that will easily cover me - they're all which-way...

Electracat, I'm not sure why I just assumed you were male. If it's a name that does not sound either fem. or masculine, I just usually assume the person is male, I guess.

To clarify, I think that if you have 2 separate foundations with no springs and just latex, the transfer of motion would be nearly non-existent. Maybe someone who has recently slept this way can comment more authoritatively but as I recall when my wife and I had a King all-latex mattress on the floor, we had no transfer of motion issues. It was the sheets/blanket thing and my wife's kicking, pulling sheets, etc. that made us have to go to separate beds. The latex itself gives virtually no transfer of motion as far as I recall.

And yeah, I think if you have two twin or 2 twin extra-long foundations next to each other, you can fit it all with the same sheets and blankets, even the same King latex layers. Unless you require your sheets to fit super tight, you can probably just buy the "deeper" sheets to get it to fit if necessary. A very firm platform should not provide any transfer of motion, I don't think. Again, I'm just speculating based on what I recall but I'd almost be willing to bet on it. Maybe some latex experts or owners can comment. If it does give you motion transfer then just take an electric carving knife and cut the latex, toppers, etc. down the middle and that should reduce it. Even a 1/2 in between the two mattresses should greatly reduce any motion, without really affecting the fitting of loose sheets or blankets, etc.

Diane

And if that didn't work, we'd get separate beds. Or maybe i can slice the bed down the middle, like with the mattress layers? ;)

I'm picturing electracat with big grin on her face while holding a chainsaw above the bed!   hahaha 

And, i guess the electric knife just wouldn't be enough for this job, huh? ;)

If you gave a picture of the foundation we might be able to answer that. I myself am not a carpenter but my guess is that you might be able to make it more solid and firm by adding wooden slats somehow - depending on how it's put together, that might be possible, or not. Adding harder wood slats to it or putting more across it or something...?

Using the same foundation MIGHT be okay, if you can make it stable enough so it doesn't bounce or move in normal sleep. You might try just putting the latex on the floor and see how that works. If that works out okay, then you can look into making your foundation more stable or buying a super stable one. OR, just buy 2 twin box springs - get the kind that are made from all wood, with no springs - and put those right next to each other with your King(?) mattress (I have forgotten what you have) on top of that.