Mattress Forum

This is key.  We *think* we like the feel of a softer mattress, but that is not always what is best for our bodies.  I'm going to take a giant leap here and say I bet your husband would be more comfortable with M/XF/XF or even F/XF/XF and add a 1" or 2" soft topper over the F/XF/XF.

I have never heard a report of a person with back issues having a positive experience with soft latex.  I really think you need to go firmer.  You'll be surprised.  My own back feels best with XF/XF/XF (all layers 36 ILD, and I have a 2" soft convoluted topper on top of those layers).

Kimberely, would:

medium, firm, Xfirm, Xfirm layers

in talalay latex be good for people with low back pain?

But speaking in generalities, and after having spent months reviewing the comments of people with back issues, and from my own personal experience, I would say that anyone who has severe back pain issues will do better with a firmer mattress.  We need the support that firm mattresses offer.  Another factor is your sleeping position.  Side sleepers like me often need pain relief from pressure points, such as the hip and shoulder areas.

When I got my latex mattress, I wanted it soft.  Flobeds recommended a firmer configuration than I believed I wanted.  I went with their recommendation (F/XF/XF) with misgivings.  Yet once the bed arrived, I found that contrary to what I thought I wanted (a soft bed), what gave my back the most relief was firm support.  So I mailed back the firm layer on my side of the bed and got another XF layer, making my side XF/XF/XF (all 36 ILD).

I missed the slight cush of the F/XF/XF and switched around layers to give my husband XF/XF/XF and me the F/XF/XF again, but after several weeks, I'm having back issues again (nothing like what I had before I got the latex bed though).

So next time I change the sheets, I'll be moving the layers again and going back to XF/XF/XF.

All Flobeds mattresses have a 2" soft convoluted topper on top of the three layers, so that provides some cushion.

I think you may be right. Thanks for the idea. So do you think they will take back my soft top layer?. Or should I just add some firmer layers? since their shipping is so high. Shaun told me the next layers I would have to pay the shipping. That is when the other shoe dropped for me. I felt sick to my stomach because I thought they would take care of me till I found what works for me. I cannot afford to pay for shipping till I decide what works. So I will be forced to have to pay for a layer somewhere else. After receiving my NOMAD slat wood bed frame, it made my mattress a little firmer, so I unzipped the top of the cover, and just put the sheet over that. Now it feels yummy again, but sure enough I woke up with backaches. It's like if it feels good when you lie down, your gonna pay for it the next day. This bed is like being in a bad relationship,lol. You know it's driving you crazy, but your not willing to give it up.
 

I wouldn't worry and stew too much.  I think you have to just accept that you may need to make some adjustments to find the right comfort level for you.  Consider this a long term investment, your latex bed will last you the next 15 years of your life, or more.  Investing the time and energy to find a comfortable arrangment is worth it now.  I don't remember without going back and looking through all your postings, but maybe call Sean and see what he says.  Off the top of my head, I'd say take the softest layer each of you has and trade it for one layer firmer.  I bet your husband will be happier if you do this for his side too.