Help with softer Latex topper than FBM "Soft" 20 ILD on top of firm Stearns Foster Luxury Firm?
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Hi Folks, Thanks to all on this forum who share their insights on getting a better bed combo/night's sleep. I have been through 16 mattresses and 30 toppers in all combinations to try to build a bed my 5'3" 110 lb back sleeping wife (likes firm) and I (170lb 50/50 side and back sleeper (medium)... with lower back pain... can sleep on. And both of us are hot and hate the heat aspect of foam mattresses and padding. We are a tough case. But my back has been killling me for 4 years, such that I had/have to do something. At least 1500 hours logged in mattress blogs, mattress stores, and swapping them and giving away toppers. We spent 4 years and thousands of dollars and hours chasing "sleep separation".... "conforming mattresses" ( Beautyrest, separate coils, memory and latex foam) ... before Iearned in the last month n Peter Cancellis blog that my back injury needs an interlinked coil system. (Sealy, Stearns) It was a light going off... I slept well on every cheap hotel mattess... much better than my home bed. So I have bought a Stearns and Foster Luxury Firm, which is pretty darn good on its own, even with some hip and shoulder pain when on my side. I bought a "soft" 2" topper from Foam By Mail.... marketed as "Talalay" Natural. (I have bought at least 3-4 toppers from them over the years before I figured out that I needed them on this interlinked spring mattress.) But here is the point... the supposed "talalay" was not... it is Dunlop... very dense (don't believe 20 ILD) ... not a lick softer than the firm bed top. This stuff has the large holes (perhaps 1/4 to 3/8 in size), and in the past toppers like this were "natural" (Dunlop) "Dunlop" in the past had more imperfections, was firm, and was cooler. This is very firm, cooler, has imperfections. FBM swears it is "soft" 20 ILD, shipping weight was 32 pounds. (Queen) In the past, I have tried what I believe is 100% "talalay" (talatex)... which had the small holes (maybe an eight inch or a little more.) The Talalay had no perceptible "airholels" in the rubber material, was noticeably softer feeling (per ILD)... and felt "warmer." My back so badly needs a solution (which I believe is a 2", softer top sitting on the very firm mattress itself) that I am sleeping in a separate room on a separate bed than my bride to get what I need without screwing up her nights sleep also. The dropping dollar value and apparent shortage from the disease killing Latex trees and skyrocketing demand is driving the price out of sight. Can anyone recommend a reasonable source for True 100% Talalay.. or do you think I can get away with "blended" and where? Thanks in adance for your help. shovel99 |
Re: Help with softer Latex topper than FBM "Soft" 20 ILD on top of firm Stearns Foster Luxury Firm?
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HI Folks, Some more twists and turns. When I wrote this, I had the S & F English Meadows Luxury Firm ( think this is Macys version of base model S&F which I bought from the good folks at mattressbarn.com in atlanta). I tried an Ikea TVEIT topper which is a 1" latex... 20% natural 80% synthetic topper in a nice zippered cloth bag... thinking I could return it if I didn't like it. It felt more like 2 inches of folded fabric and was not supportive. When I got it back to IKEA, they refused a return and gave me store credit. Desperate not to lose $200... I took their 2 3/8 inch memory foam topper called Tajford.... $250.... which felt great in the store... very firm, supportive. Turned into a nightmare in less than 2 hours.... the usual memory foam problem... deep hole, hot, hard, slow recovery that I bump into as a restless sleeper. I did convince them to give me store credit on return of the first one if the second didn't work. I then swapped the firm S&F for a the Plush tight top version of the same mattress which was softer. I at least I could sleep on it, but still a bit firm for me... some arm/hip firmness ( Male weigh 170 60% side, 40% back) and going to sleep. I then put the Foam By Mail 2" "Natural Talalay Soft 19 ILD" on the new mattress. This is the one that felt too firm on the Luxury Firm S & F. On this mattress, it was a slight improvement in combination with the sofer top on the Plush S & F. This is still a fairly firm, supportive mattress. It may indeed be separate pocketed coils, but firm enough to provide solid support. ccmattress.com Peter Cancelli sells a version of this mattress and would be a recommended source. mattressfirm.com sells this mattress as Camdenhurst Luxury Plush S & F... and you could buy it from Peter online at considerable savings. I will probably give this combo a couple more days before "going the last mile." Hey, what's another $172? SLAB told me that their Talalay 19 ILD is significantly softer than FBM's 20 ILD Natural. Scares me a bit to go all the way down to their 14 ILD but feel I may have to go to the bottom... softest available anywhere and firm up from there. I am only looking for soft layery at this point. Last choice is to soften up the surface with a 1 " 14 ILD Latex Talalay Talatex topper made by Latex International and sold by Sleeplikeabear.com who will ship it delivered for $172. This is money back GTY. IF I have to return it from Atlanta, I pay them their $36 shipping to me (included in the $172) plus my own shipping cost back to them. But I will have then bracketed the problem: the softest one I can find...and will then firm up from them. If this is too soft, I can bump up the ILD, or thicker, or both. I am inclined to put the 1" on top of the 2".. but it may be just enough on the mattress. Good luck and thanks for the input, everyone. |