Mattress Forum

I am in need of a new mattress.  Been sleeping on a 20yr old Simmons Maxipedic "Caress" firm with a 1.5inch memory foam topper on top.  (I know, I know, what the hell have I been waiting for so long!!!)  I'm in my 50's, with chronic neck, shoulder, and some low back pain.  I also wake up with headaches often.  I have Rheumatoid Arthritis and Osteoarthritis.  I can't stand firm beds aymore, but don't want to sleep in a hamock either.  I'm looking for something that will be soft enough to envelop my neck and shoulders, but firm enough to support my back. I am a side sleeper.  I also have a pillow between my knees. My weight is 150 pounds and 5'6". I have also been playing musical pillows for my head forever!

I have looked locally, (I live in the Pacific Northwest,) at Parklane Mattress Factory.  The bed I was liking was the "Brentwood"- pocketed coils with a 2inch 19 ILD laytex topper. Soft  Bamboo knit cover.  They have since (recently) changed it to a 1inch laytex topper with another non-knit cover. (i feel this might be too firm for me)  They also have one called the "Rogue" which is 6inch 28ILD latex with 3inch 19ILD on top, covered with cotton. Another possibility is the "Kelsay"- pocketed coil base, 2000 2.5 inch mini pocketed coils on top of that, topped with 2inches of 19ILD latex, bamboo fabric cover.  

I'm frustrated at this point, not sure what I should do.  My main problem is the pain in my neck and shoulder area (pressure points), but not wanting to sacrifice my back either.  I want this future bed to not make body impression too soon.  I must be wishing for something that doesn't exist!  I'm open to all suggestions and ideas. 

Thanks