Mattress Forum

I wish I knew how to get it to "soften" a bit.  We tried a softer "topper" for a few weeks, but that wasn't the answer.  We are stuck with a bed that cost $7,000.00+ and cannot sleep on it.  Honestly, it is like sleeping on a rock.  ***Does anyone know how to slightly soften this kind of bed?

Not sure what type of bed the mattress is based on this post, but if it is the mattress that is too firm, you can try walking on it to condition or "break-in" the foams and fibers of the mattress. If it is a Tempurpedic (or similar), you are dealing with the insane assumption of salespeople that you will know what they mean when they say it will soften up.

The model you try in a store is almost always browken in or conditioned, the new one you receive will be much firmer and will "soften up" to feel like the one in the store anywhere from 3-8 weeks... the softening up is based on conditioning the feel from new to comfortable. Some people like the change over time during the first couple of months while it bexcomes "personally" contoured to their sleep pattern and style, some says it feels softer where they sleep. Here is how to fix that (generally speaking)

Walking (or crawling) head-to-toe and side-to-side across the top will condition the ENTIRE mattress and not just your sleep area. Otherwise, the sleep area is the only "soft" part of the bed... ANY bed. Many complain about the ridge down the center of a king mattress and this is the cause of that ridge: foam that has not been conditioned so it still feels like new. If this isn't making sense, try running your fingers on the inside of your shoes... can you feel the ridges caused by your toes? these are "body" impressions designed to custom fit your feet pattern; it is the main reason you cannot wear your best friends shoes with the same size-- they "feel" weird on the inside. they are not custom fit to you... put in a gel insole and it removes the custom design and yu probably can wear them... or buy new insoles. You just need to make the foot bed even again to feel comfortable.

Hope this helps! Sleep well jaydee!
 

Exactly what make and model of bed did you buy?  Did you buy it from a place that offered any kind of trial / return period? 
 

Walking on the mattress is a good idea to try, but I'm not sure it will make a huge difference if you've already had the bed for 10 weeks.  If you have any type of mattress pad or topper on it, try removing that to where only your fitted sheet is covering the mattress and see if it feels a little softer after a few nights.  Sometimes those can prevent your body heat from getting to the mattress and allowing it to conform like it is supposed to.