Too-firm mattress causing back pain - exchange for plush mattress or get toppers?
Oct 28, 2010 10:43 AM
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Hi,

First, thanks for this forum - it's a great resource.  I only wish I'd discovered it a few weeks ago!

At any rate, I recently purchased a new Simmons beautyrest firm, non-pillowtop mattress (yes, I'm aware of the concerns about Simmons, but apparently the firm mattresses use a heavier gauge wire in the coils less prone to sagging).  The mattress is uncomfortably firm, and I believe it is seriously exacerbating my previously-mild lower back pain.   I read in the very helpful newbie thread that one should always get the firmest mattress possible and then add toppers as needed, but my concern is that a too-firm mattress isn't allowing my hips and shoulders (I'm a side sleeper) to sink sufficiently to keep my spine aligned (and there appears to be some support [no pun intended!] for this hypothesis: http://www.webmd.com/back-pain/news/20031113/best-mattress-for-lower-back-pain).  I did try a 3 inch memory foam topper (fairly dense) and it seemed to help but could only tolerate one night due to it being way too hot. 

I am thus considering availing myself of Sleepy's exchange policy to get a less firm mattress (probably sleep to live, which I know gets quite a few negative reviews, or a plus simmons, which will be more prone to sagging than the firm one I currently have).  The other option is to try other toppers.  I have a few questions:

- I understand that toppers can alleviate pressure points in a firm mattress, but will toppers also allow enough sinking to ensure proper spinal alignment?  Might a plush mattress be better, not for comfort but for alignment?

- I've seen "cool" MF topper advertised - does anyone have actual experience with MF toppers that slept cool?

- Would a latex topper be a better choice?  I know it wouldn't have the head issue , but would it allow enough sinking to ensure proper alignment?  Any other topper recommendations?

Any other thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. 

Thanks!
This message was modified Oct 28, 2010 by adamjs
Re: Too-firm mattress causing back pain - exchange for plush mattress or get toppers?
Reply #7 Oct 29, 2010 1:45 PM
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It's hard to say after just one night, but I do seem to have less back pain with the MF, and it's certainly more comfortable.  It doesn't feel too firm but I wouldn't mind it being a bit softer.  It doesn't feel like I'm sinking in too much.  However to be clear I am planning on returning the 3" MF I have and instead try the  1" mem-cool over 1-2" latex as suggested.  I think I'll go with sleeplikeabear for the latex.

I have tried the bed with softer coils, and it's definitely more comfortable - my hips sink in nicely.  On the other hand it will cost me about $350 to exchange, which is not much less than 2" latex and 1" mem-cool, so if the latex/mem-cool is as comfortable, I think that would be better because the lower-guage wire is more likely to sag, plus the degree of sinkage with the soft coils that feels good in the store could prove to be too much over the course of an entire night. 

I still have another week to decide on the mattress exchange, so I think my working plan will be to order the mem-cool and latex and try that first.  While waiting for that to arrive, I'll continue to use the 3" MF topper.  I'll try it without the egg crate tonight.  The egg crate doesn't provide much cushioning, I was using it more to provide extra heat insulation.

Oh and one other question: the polyester fill pad I have is returnable, so I'm thinking of a wool pad.  But from your other posts, it doesn't seem like you found the wool to make much difference.  If I do get a wool pad, it seems like this is the way to go in terms of cost and availability: http://www.costco.com/Browse/Productgroup.aspx?Prodid=11535460&whse=BC&Ne=4000000&eCat=BC|90608|28683|492&N=4047337&Mo=28&pos=2&No=16&Nr=P_CatalogName:BC&cat=492&Ns=P_Price|1||P_SignDesc1&lang=en-US&Sp=C&ec=BC-EC14142-Cat28683&topnav=

Re: Too-firm mattress causing back pain - exchange for plush mattress or get toppers?
Reply #8 Oct 29, 2010 2:21 PM
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adamjs wrote:

 

 

It's hard to say after just one night, but I do seem to have less back pain with the MF, and it's certainly more comfortable.  It doesn't feel too firm but I wouldn't mind it being a bit softer.  It doesn't feel like I'm sinking in too much.  However to be clear I am planning on returning the 3" MF I have and instead try the  1" mem-cool over 1-2" latex as suggested.  I think I'll go with sleeplikeabear for the latex.

 

I have tried the bed with softer coils, and it's definitely more comfortable - my hips sink in nicely.  On the other hand it will cost me about $350 to exchange, which is not much less than 2" latex and 1" mem-cool, so if the latex/mem-cool is as comfortable, I think that would be better because the lower-guage wire is more likely to sag, plus the degree of sinkage with the soft coils that feels good in the store could prove to be too much over the course of an entire night. 

I still have another week to decide on the mattress exchange, so I think my working plan will be to order the mem-cool and latex and try that first.  While waiting for that to arrive, I'll continue to use the 3" MF topper.  I'll try it without the egg crate tonight.  The egg crate doesn't provide much cushioning, I was using it more to provide extra heat insulation.

Oh and one other question: the polyester fill pad I have is returnable, so I'm thinking of a wool pad.  But from your other posts, it doesn't seem like you found the wool to make much difference.  If I do get a wool pad, it seems like this is the way to go in terms of cost and availability: http://www.costco.com/Browse/Productgroup.aspx?Prodid=11535460&whse=BC&Ne=4000000&eCat=BC|90608|28683|492&N=4047337&Mo=28&pos=2&No=16&Nr=P_CatalogName:BC&cat=492&Ns=P_Price|1||P_SignDesc1&lang=en-US&Sp=C&ec=BC-EC14142-Cat28683&topnav=


I think wool can make a difference.  I would prefer wool instead of polyester fill for sure.  The Costco one is a good value.  My only concern is whether the waterproof membrane makes it sleep any hotter.  I don't think much of a difference.  At least you can return to Costco if you don't like it.

I think the mem-cool + latex should breath better than what you have.  That plus some wool on top might make it so that it does not get too hot.  I think you will still find it warm (which is good), but hopefully not hot.

What firmness latex are you thinking?  I would think either 14 or 19ILD since you seem to like it pretty soft.  14 would be the closest to memory foam, if that is what you are looking for.  19 has a bit more firmness and push back.  You could always do 1" of each to have more flexibility.

Sometimes it is good to have something intermediate firmness between a firm surface and a soft topper.  So, that would favor the 19, but you might need 1 more inch of something else eventually to make it soft enough.  Even 1" of 24 on the bottom might be good, but of course it is all expensive.

I doubt you will get the latex within a week.  You would have to call and check on availability.

What would be nice would be to try the wool mattress pad with the 3" memory foam and see if that is too hot.  If not too hot and still too firm, maybe you could add just 1" of latex to see if that solves the problem.

Which of the Sleepy's mattresses do you have?  Is there one with 14 gauge similiar to yours?
 

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Re: Too-firm mattress causing back pain - exchange for plush mattress or get toppers?
Reply #9 Oct 31, 2010 5:56 PM
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sandman wrote:

 

 


I think wool can make a difference.  I would prefer wool instead of polyester fill for sure.  The Costco one is a good value.  My only concern is whether the waterproof membrane makes it sleep any hotter.  I don't think much of a difference.  At least you can return to Costco if you don't like it.

I think the mem-cool + latex should breath better than what you have.  That plus some wool on top might make it so that it does not get too hot.  I think you will still find it warm (which is good), but hopefully not hot.

What firmness latex are you thinking?  I would think either 14 or 19ILD since you seem to like it pretty soft.  14 would be the closest to memory foam, if that is what you are looking for.  19 has a bit more firmness and push back.  You could always do 1" of each to have more flexibility.

Sometimes it is good to have something intermediate firmness between a firm surface and a soft topper.  So, that would favor the 19, but you might need 1 more inch of something else eventually to make it soft enough.  Even 1" of 24 on the bottom might be good, but of course it is all expensive.

I doubt you will get the latex within a week.  You would have to call and check on availability.

What would be nice would be to try the wool mattress pad with the 3" memory foam and see if that is too hot.  If not too hot and still too firm, maybe you could add just 1" of latex to see if that solves the problem.

Which of the Sleepy's mattresses do you have?  Is there one with 14 gauge similiar to yours?
 


I have this mattress.  It looks like the wire guage is actually 14 and 3/4, not 13 as I thought, which makes me think that going plusher would be a bad idea.  Also I'm thinking that given the thinner wire, it may be more likely to break in a bit. 

Also, I've now slept for three nights with the 3" MF topper under the egg crate and the polyester 16 oz fill mattress pad, and I'm finding it quite comfortable.  Even with the MF under the other layers, it still gets quite warm, but the temperature is just barely tolerable.  So I'm now thinking that instead of the 1" mem-cool over 2" latex, I may just try 2 or 3" mem cool - this will be about half the price of the latex/mem-cool combo.  Then if that's too hot, maybe I'd get an additional 1" latex to layer on top of the mem-cool, not so much for added comfort but more to have a layer between the hot MF and my body.  Does that seem like a reasonable plan?  And do you think the latex would be an effective temperature buffer?  And finally, do you have thoughts about 2" versus 3" of mem-cool? 

Also, I'm wondering if the natura cover would provide as much temperature control as my current polyester pad.  I understand that wool is better than polyester, but on the other hand the natura has less than half the fill density (7 vs 16 oz). 

Thanks again for all your input, and hope you're having a great weekend!

Re: Too-firm mattress causing back pain - exchange for plush mattress or get toppers?
Reply #10 Oct 31, 2010 6:48 PM
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Why do you say the Natura has 7oz?  I don't see that, and it doesn't sound right.  Maybe 7 oz. per sqare yard?

I think you are probably better trying things over your memory foam (which you seem to like) than replacing it.  Although, I guess you said you could still return it?

I think you need a wool layer on top, maybe 2.  Like the wool topper or the wool filled mattress pad.

Latex will be more supportive and possibly cooler than the mem-cool, so I don't really like the idea of going with too much mem-cool.  2" at most, and for some people they would find that not supportive enough.  1" is probably better with some latex.  Most likely the mem-cool will not be as supportive as the memory foam you currently have.

As I have said all foams heat up, so you need something breathable over them.

Re: Too-firm mattress causing back pain - exchange for plush mattress or get toppers?
Reply #11 Nov 3, 2010 1:24 PM
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sandman wrote:

Why do you say the Natura has 7oz?  I don't see that, and it doesn't sound right.  Maybe 7 oz. per sqare yard?

I think you are probably better trying things over your memory foam (which you seem to like) than replacing it.  Although, I guess you said you could still return it?

I think you need a wool layer on top, maybe 2.  Like the wool topper or the wool filled mattress pad.

Latex will be more supportive and possibly cooler than the mem-cool, so I don't really like the idea of going with too much mem-cool.  2" at most, and for some people they would find that not supportive enough.  1" is probably better with some latex.  Most likely the mem-cool will not be as supportive as the memory foam you currently have.

As I have said all foams heat up, so you need something breathable over them.

Yes, I believe the Natura is 7 oz. per square yard, which is less than half the density of my current (returnable) polyester fill pad.  So I'm wondering if even though wool is "cooler", the Natura still won't insulate me from the heat from the MF as much as the much denser polyester.  On the other hand, maybe it's not a question of insulating me from the MF, maybe it comes down to dispersing my body heat BEFORE it reaches the MF?  Not really sure how this works.

And yes, I can return my current MF topper.  I've actually gotten rid of the egg crate that was over the topper, so now I'm sleeping with just the polyester pad on top of the MF. The MF feels much better without the egg crate over it - I'm now pretty happy with the comfort, and it's actually not really hotter than when I had the egg crate.  But it's still hotter than I'd like. 

So that's basically my objective at this point, to reduce temperature.  I could just go for 3" mem-cool, but as you point out, that's probably less dense than my current MF topper, so there may be support issues.  But support aside, I'm wondering: how much cooler will 1" mem-cool over 2" latex be versus just 3" mem-cool?  And again, how much better (or possibly worse) would a thiner wool pad be than a thicker polyester one?

Thanks!

Re: Too-firm mattress causing back pain - exchange for plush mattress or get toppers?
Reply #12 Nov 3, 2010 4:57 PM
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adamjs wrote:

 

Yes, I believe the Natura is 7 oz. per square yard, which is less than half the density of my current (returnable) polyester fill pad.  So I'm wondering if even though wool is "cooler", the Natura still won't insulate me from the heat from the MF as much as the much denser polyester.  On the other hand, maybe it's not a question of insulating me from the MF, maybe it comes down to dispersing my body heat BEFORE it reaches the MF?  Not really sure how this works.

And yes, I can return my current MF topper.  I've actually gotten rid of the egg crate that was over the topper, so now I'm sleeping with just the polyester pad on top of the MF. The MF feels much better without the egg crate over it - I'm now pretty happy with the comfort, and it's actually not really hotter than when I had the egg crate.  But it's still hotter than I'd like. 

So that's basically my objective at this point, to reduce temperature.  I could just go for 3" mem-cool, but as you point out, that's probably less dense than my current MF topper, so there may be support issues.  But support aside, I'm wondering: how much cooler will 1" mem-cool over 2" latex be versus just 3" mem-cool?  And again, how much better (or possibly worse) would a thiner wool pad be than a thicker polyester one?

Thanks!

Are you sure yours is 16oz per square yard?   That would be very thick for polyester.

Anyway, polyester really does not absorb moiusture, while wool does.  That is probably the main factor.   I think alot of the heat is really trapped humidity.  Breathable foams can help, but they don't absorb the humidty.   Based on the laws of physics, anything you are sleeping on will warm up towards your body temperature and get warm.  I am not sure if the different memory foam will totally solve that problem. 

My experience is that 3" of mem-cool  probably would not be supportive enough either, but everyone is different.  If you really want to try, I would suggest 1" and then (if you have a large bed) you might be able to fold in half to see what 2" is like. 

Also, the softer and more you sink in, the warmer it will be, because your skin has less area to breath.  Kind of like wearing long sleeves vs. short-sleeves.  That may be one of your issues.

So, I am inclined to add wool first.  You might consider the 1.5" wool topper from walmart.com as well. 

Also , what are you using for sheets, blankets, etc.  I use low thread count egyptian cotton sheets, and cotton blankets (unless fairly cold).   That has helped me as well.

These all are just my opinions.  Maybe someone cares to add some advice?

 


 

Re: Too-firm mattress causing back pain - exchange for plush mattress or get toppers?
Reply #13 Nov 4, 2010 1:18 PM
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Thanks again Sandman, I realize these are just your opinions but it's all very helpful.

I just got a reply from the Therapedic and apparently the 3" MF I've been using is only 2.5 lbs!  I found this surprising, but I have nothing to compare it to.  Assuming this is correct, I think the 4 lb mem-cool would probably be supportive enough.  As I use the current topper more, I appreciate its comfort but am realizing it's not quite supportive enough, but it doesn't seem like it needs to be drastically more supportive.  So I think I'll start by trying 2" mem-cool. 

In terms of the cover, I actually don't know what the 16 oz refers to - I assumed it was per square yard but it doens't explicitly state that, so who knows?  So I think I will try a wool topper.  I'm leaning toward the Costco one, but I am a bit concerned that the fact that it's waterproof means it will be hotter.  Any thoughts on this?

Re: Too-firm mattress causing back pain - exchange for plush mattress or get toppers?
Reply #14 Nov 4, 2010 5:54 PM
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adamjs wrote:

Thanks again Sandman, I realize these are just your opinions but it's all very helpful.

 

I just got a reply from the Therapedic and apparently the 3" MF I've been using is only 2.5 lbs!  I found this surprising, but I have nothing to compare it to.  Assuming this is correct, I think the 4 lb mem-cool would probably be supportive enough.  As I use the current topper more, I appreciate its comfort but am realizing it's not quite supportive enough, but it doesn't seem like it needs to be drastically more supportive.  So I think I'll start by trying 2" mem-cool. 

In terms of the cover, I actually don't know what the 16 oz refers to - I assumed it was per square yard but it doens't explicitly state that, so who knows?  So I think I will try a wool topper.  I'm leaning toward the Costco one, but I am a bit concerned that the fact that it's waterproof means it will be hotter.  Any thoughts on this?

2.5lbs is pretty low.  However, support is also a function of how it is made.  I believe the more open breathable ones provide less suppport than the more traditional types.  At least that has been my experience.  I have an older piece of 3.6lb density that seemed more supportive than the 5lb (breathable) Aerus.

Most seem to agree that lower density does not last as long.  So, yours may be okay for support now, but might lose in a few years.

I am not crazy about the waterproof aspect, but not sure if make a noticable difference.  All else equal, I would get one that was not waterproof.  You can also buy washable (non waterproof) Natura ones.

 

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Reply #15 Nov 4, 2010 7:05 PM
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"Most seem to agree that lower density does not last as long.  So, yours may be okay for support now, but might lose in a few years."

Or a few months in many cases at densities this low.

I am still a big believer that "support" in a real sense does not come from the memory foam layers no matter what type of memory foam is in the layer. This is why there are no pure memory foam mattresses on the market (to my knowledge). Having said that, I believe the denser memory foams will create a "sense of greater support" since they will often (depending on brand and specs) have a "firmer" feel feel to them when they are "unmelted" by body heat and pressure. You would tend to not sink in as far in a denser memory foam layer (again this would depend on brand) and this I believe can "translate" into a sense of greater support depending on the layers underneath. I believe that true support (the ability to keep your spine aligned through some form of pushback) comes from the layers under the memory foam. Someone would need to be really lucky to get correct support from a memory foam layer (correct spinal alignment at the depth the memory foam allows you to sink in) and even then it would probably only be correct in a particular sleeping position and for a limited time as each different position (or the length of time spent in one position) would change the characteristics of the memory foam (different heat/pressure distribution for each position or length of time).

The top layers of memory foam are more about comfort and pressure distribution and how easily they allow you to sink in/through to the supportive layers underneath. In other words, I believe that firmer memory foam comfort layers do not offer greater support but they do offer a firmer "feel" by not allowing a sleeper to sink in quite as far.

The thinner the memory foam layer and the closer to your body it is, the more easily you would go through it (again depending on brand and density) and the greater the influence of the layers underneath on the perceived feel of the memory foam itself.

Phoenix

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Re: Too-firm mattress causing back pain - exchange for plush mattress or get toppers?
Reply #16 Nov 4, 2010 8:08 PM
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Yes, it may last less than a few years.  I am not sure what the breakdown rate is in memory foam vs. PU foam.  I think more gradual, sinces it already starts soft, but not sure.

I would say that memory foam provides some support, but not a lot.  No support to me would mean that you would sink in the full amount of the thickness of the foam.  I am fairly confident that is not the case.  I am pretty sure that if you slept on a 10" piece of memory foam, the maximum compression would not be 9.999".  Therefore, it is providing some level of support. 

 

However, it is possible that in some memory foams, when warmed up, you might sink in 80% or more in the heaviest areas.  It would be interesting to have a measure of how far you sink it sinks in at a higher temperature and after a certain amount of time.  A firm piece of latex would sink in considerably less than the 80%.

I also think there is some difference in the amount of support in different memory foams.  Although I have no way to measure it, I don't think I would sink in as far on a 3" piece of 5lb Senus as I would in a 3" piece of 5lb. Aerus.

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